After all the work we do to get into a stable relationship, it would be nice to have some guarantee on its longevity. Alas, there isn’t, and even the seemingly greatest relationships are at risk when they’re not protected and cultivated. Here are some things that will kill even the ones that started out amazingly well.
1. Lack of trust.
This is totally different from infidelity; when your partner cannot vouch for you in a relationship, then it is bad. You should be able to predict to an extent the things your partner can do and the places he or she would visit. This is the foundation of most relationships, if the foundation is faulty or shaky, the relationship you have built will definitely break.
A relationship whereby a party resorts to being childish when problems spring up can never work out. Some people do not know how to handle certain situations and they end up messing it up the more. A partner who starts to call his or her partner all sorts of names when they fight lacks is not a mature person. Name calling is bad for anyone and it would kill that relationship before you know it; ‘Miss know it all’, ‘I too know’ and ‘Mr. perfect’ are names you should never call your partner.
3. Lack of communication.
While your partner may constantly frustrate your effort when you try to reach out to her, you should never stop talking. The moment there is a break in communication that relationship is as good as over. Talk, talk and keep talking; do not hold back when it is time to relate with your partner. Many relationships have broken as a result of lack of communication
4. Constant complaining.
Annoying things happen all the time, but usually when we’re with company we enjoy things like traffic or the wait at the restaurant don’t seem so important. When the small things threaten to ruin the night, they can start to threaten the relationship as well.
5. Taking each other for granted.
Here is where many couples get it wrong. You got him / her to commit, so now you can back off a bit on the effort, right? Wrong. Same thing goes for the other way around.
NOTE: Misplaced priorities
This is another thing that could kill a relationship. Many people do not know what to do at the right time. In relationships, you should learn to set your priorities right. Some would rather invest their time in pressing phones when they ought to spend quality time with their partners. When your partner starts to feel like he is not so important in your life, the relationship is heading for the rocks.